The road to recovery

I recently had some clever surgery which involved creating a new wrist joint in my arm (you can read about it here). Last week my plaster cast was replaced and I became the proud owner of a snazzy new red one. Since then I’ve been able to give POD, my two-year-old, a proper hug and do a few of the simple things we all take for granted.

The new cast freed my fingers from plaster. I celebrated by wiggling them for an entire afternoon. I scrubbed off all the red dye and I was able to put my rings back on. Fast forward a few days and I can hold a tube of toothpaste while I remove its lid. I can do a bra up at the front and shuffle it round to where it needs to be. I look less like Worzel Gummidge as I can tie my hair back myself.

When you’re used to typing with both hands and barely glancing at the keyboard, using only two fingers is frustrating. You don’t know where the keys are for a start. Added to which you’re attempting to press keys on opposite ends of the keyboard with the same hand. This weekend however, not only has my speed improved, I’ve been able to hold down the shift and caps lock key with the other hand. It’s made such a difference.

Finally, I received a plastic sleeve the other day to protect my new cast from getting wet. I cannot put into words how exiting it is to have a shower for the first time when you’ve had to have a bath every day. It was without doubt the most incredible shower I have ever had. I came out a shrivelled prune but felt great.

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Broken bones, a bath and a toddler

Sometimes despite your best efforts, things don’t quite go to plan. Like looking after your toddler when you have a broken wing.

Whilst you can master doing things one handed, aided on occasions by your thighs, changing a toddler’s nappy is not possible. Nor is bathing or dressing. Thankfully Daddy got POD ready before setting off for London so I just needed to organise myself.

It became apparent, after POD stirred prunes with such vigor they flew out of the bowl like slugs, it might be a challenging three hours. Undeterred we headed upstairs so POD could play with her toys and I could have a bath. She loves playing with her wooden kitchen and vegetables. Not to mention the self named dollies Boadicea, Bob and Rice.

Having established Daddy was at a meeting, not in Tesco, attention quickly diverted to the running bath.

“Bath” Yes Mummy’s going to have a bath

“Mummy have shower” No Mummy’s having a bath today

“My bath” You had a bath last night, Mummy’s having a bath now

“Mummy get in shower” Mummy can’t get her arm wet so she has to have a bath

“No arm, have shower” Mummy’s having a bath [steps in cautiously, gets comfortable and rests wing on side of bath]

“Mummy got Mickey Mouse in bath” Here you go you have Mickey

“Mickey bouncing on bath” You be careful of Mummy’s arm [moves arm out of danger]

“Wash Mummy hair” No let Mummy do it [catches cup of water before it’s released]

“Anamanals” Yes the animals are all there, Mummy doesn’t need them in the bath

“Whale, crab, starfish, penguin…another whale, duck fish…big duck” No more animals, Mummy’s got enough now

Bath fun over, POD’s bedroom bound where she happily feeds vegetables to her dollies.

“Mummy I take trousers off” No don’t take your trousers off [releases thigh from Mickey’s slide, gets out of bath]

“Mummy I got no socks on” Put your socks back on [speeds up one handed drying]

“Mummy I done a poo” Mummy’s just coming [arrives in bedroom, T-shirt round neck, boobs-a-flapping]

“I took my trousers off” I can see, have you done a poo? [confirms no poo]

“I put my socks on” Brilliant, are you going to help Mummy put your trousers back on?

“Yes I help Mummy” There’s a good girl [half an hour later retreat downstairs]

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Toddler fun in the sun

IMG_9639POD loves having the freedom to run around so it’s great when the weather allows outdoor play. Normally we’d venture further afield than the garden but having just had surgery, and what comes with it, I was a bit of a wobbly Bob.

After a period spent running up and down the garden, POD was in the bushes and clambering across *what should be* flower beds in no time. It’s great to see her face light up when she spots something she’s not seen before, like a “bobin”. As inquisitive as ever, she will ask “whatsatt?” at every available opportunity. This coupled with the familiar cries of “ae-ro-plane”, “backbird” and “peegin”. The “skirrell” has usually made a run for it before she steps outside. Her vocabulary is incredible really considering she was two on Christmas Day. IMG_9667She said “I don’t want that either” the other day. Amazing to think this time last year she couldn’t talk at all.

POD absolutely adores her sandpit which is sand free and full of water. And a few stones. She will sit on her little chair filling buckets and pots, distributing the water around the garden. The compost bin and patio usually have a good splattering.

Whilst POD is a stickler for picking up the minutest spec of dirt in the house, she enjoys getting messy. And in preparation for potty training, she likes to strip. It was inevitable after a brief spell pouring water on her shoes, the majority of her clothes would be off.

IMG_9702Sitting on her chair, she grinned the widest grin as she poured water on her naked legs. A mix of utter joy and shock as the coldness of water from the outside tap hit her skin. It was amusing enough to try again. First she used a sieve, closely followed by a boat and rather bravely a bucket.

Cries of “cold” were met with raucous giggles as she picked up the pace with her water distribution. Before long her arms were soaked, as was her torso and her hair. Hearing a toddler laugh and laugh like that is so infectious. A simple yet brilliant moment.

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Forest adventures

IMG_9456The Doves were craving some fresh air after a week cooped up indoors. Luckily for us we were greeted with a beautifully sunny day.

Given I’d had surgery a few days earlier, we decided on an amble in a nearby forest. Clearly I’d forgotten this required clothes, the majority of which I couldn’t fit into with a plaster cast on my arm. I ended up opting for one of The POD Father’s fleeces with my tracksuit bottoms and trainers.

POD was uncharacteristically quiet in the car, typically falling asleep just before we reached the Alice Holt forest. Initially unimpressed at being woken up and strapped in her trike, POD quickly became IMG_9493accustomed to her new surroundings.

After just a few minutes, we came across some wigwams made from trees, perfectly positioned in the middle of the forest. They offered incredible views of the forest and all its splendor. Located just off a main path, it was a peaceful setting. The sun beamed through the gaps in the trees.

It was all too exciting for POD and in no time she was off her trike in a bid to explore the woodland. Thanks to her love of Peppa Pig, muddy puddles were first on the agenda. Whilst shouting “muddy puddle”, she stepped into each one, then jumped up and down in it chuckling to herself. She was having a whale of a time.

When there were no more puddles, POD followed the edge of the path to see what she could find. It wasn’t IMG_9508long before we heard her shriek “Whatsatt?”. It was a tiny, yet perfectly formed, fir cone. Her face lit up with a huge smile when she realised it wasn’t going to eat her.

Finding a stick on the path was a monumental discovery. After cries of “stick”, she proceeded to wave it around while she walked telling everyone she passed what it was, much to their amusement. A stone and a clump of moss were also retrieved from the pathway. These were held in one hand with the fir cone and the stick was waved with vigor in the other.

POD soon realised the seat of her trike made an excellent place to store her findings. Before long sticks, stones IMG_9504and leaves were added to an ever increasing pile. Her collecting came to an abrupt halt when she spotted a stream. Shallow enough to walk in, POD saw it as a giant muddy puddle. She trotted through the stream with her sunglasses on upside down. She likes to wear them like that.

After a short ice-cream break, most of it ended up on the grass, we ventured into another part of the forest. We were surrounded by so many leaves, it felt like autumn. It was great to see POD kicking them as she walked. She’s not had the opportunity to do this before and she loved it.

It didn’t take long for her to escape the path for the woodland. She ran as fast as her little legs would carry her, IMG_9513kicking leaves as she went. Running in a little ditch full of leaves she tripped and fell. Instead of complaining, she let out the most enormous giggle. The leaves had cushioned her fall and she’d bounced as she tumbled onto her back. It truly was a magical moment, she found playing in the leaves hilarious.

There was no stopping her after that. POD dug up mud using sticks. She wiped it on both her wellies like paste. And across her legs although she didn’t think we’d seen her do that. It was great to see her get really grubby especially as she’ll pick up the tiniest speck of dirt on the floor at home.

After playing with mud, the unthinkable happened, POD asked to go to bed. Although she changed her IMG_9523mind when home, I think this was a sign she’d had a really great time.

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Sauve-Kapanji

Those of you that read my D-Day has arrived post will know I had surgery this week. Having an operation on the same part of your body for the second time, rightly or wrongly, means you know what to expect.

I’d not anticipated how nauseous I’d feel the night before. The only time I’d ever felt that sick with nerves was during POD’s 12 week scan. Unsurprisingly ‘nil by mouth’ meant I was starving by 11.30pm when I succumbed to a second dinner of chocolate and Weetabix. I didn’t sleep much.

POD was in fine fettle on D-Day morning. She insisted on wearing a glittery headband with her name emblazoned on it. And sunglasses. It was 7am. The POD Father dropped me at the hospital to wait for a bed and then took POD to nursery.

A suspected latex allergy meant I secured a bed, my own room and was scheduled for theatre first. The POD Father arrived back at the hospital to the sight of me donning a hospital gown and a pair of knee high toe-less tights to stop deep vein thrombosis.

When I broke both my wrist bones at the point of rotation, corrective surgery involved plating the radius bone. Fast forward 17 months and my radius is in superb shape. No need to remove the metalwork. The movement in my wrist is good although the ulna bone has never healed properly. It doesn’t rotate around the radius as it should, it’s disintegrating and there is arthritis between the joints. The pain extends to my elbow rather than being isolated to the wrist.

This second operation involved pinning my ulna bone to the radius to stabilise the joint. My wrist will no longer rotate where it should. The surgeons then performed a rather clever procedure called Sauve-Kapanji. About 1cm of the ulna is removed from below the wrist joint. Both ends are then held together with 3 screws. The purpose of this is to create a joint further down the ulna, effectively a new rotation point.

I came round from the 2.5 hour operation to an elevated arm and two nurses discussing my procedure. They were suitably impressed with Sauve-Kapanji. For some time afterwards a block kept my arm completely numb from my shoulder to the tips of my fingers. So much so I nearly brained myself with my own arm when I went to the loo. As I suspected it was a long and painful night. I was allowed home the following day but not before I’d christened one of those cardboard hats.

Somehow it seems easier this time, not to say its any less painful or frustrating. I miss POD’s cuddles. I miss driving. I miss my independence.  Let’s just hope it’s all worth it and I get that bionic arm.

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Taking a toddler to the doctor

I’d been told we’d have to “wait a very long time” at the doctors so we went armed with a selection of books and POD’s muzzy. I meant to take a spare nappy and wipes but forgot after putting her boots on for the third time. She told the waiting room she’d done a poo as soon as we arrived. She hadn’t.

POD’s reached the stage where she questions everything. Just last week she said “Look Mummy that girl got spots” to a mortified teenager behind the counter.

Our wait at the doctor’s surgery went like this:

“Whatsatt?” A man

“Whatsatt?” A lady

“Whatsatt?” The man again

“He got no trousers on” No, he’s wearing shorts

“Whatsatt?” Another lady

“A baby, a baby!” Yes it’s a baby and his Mummy

“Baby not walking” No the baby’s not walking yet

“Whatsatt?” That’s a girl

“Girl got no skirt on, Mummy where girl skirt?” She is wearing a skirt

“No just tights” She’s wearing a *tiny* skirt and tights

“Chair broken, need another one” The chair’s just a bit wobbly that’s all

“Baby hold chair, wibble wobble, wibble wobble” [shakes nearby chair]. No don’t move the chair, the baby’s holding onto it

“Hairband” Yes the girl has a hairband

“Girl not have skirt on” Yes she does she’s wearing a skirt and tights

“No skirt. Boots, girl has boots” That’s right she’s wearing boots. We’re wearing boots too

“Lady not have boots on” No that lady is not wearing boots, she’s wearing sandals

The hilarity of the waiting room came to an abrupt stop when POD’s name was called. Impeccable timing by the doctor. How do you explain to a toddler that two adults are dressed for summer when it’s -2 degrees outside?

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Learning to dance

It stands to reason POD should love music. For the last four months of my pregnancy she got to listen to some absolute classics. Two hours a day on my journey to and from the office.

Although I’m *allegedly* tone deaf, I’m sure my singing was the reason her foot was frequently wedged in my rib-cage. I used to tickle it so I could breathe again.

It was a superb moment when POD danced for the first time. Totally unprompted too. She put her hands on her hips and wiggled her little bottom from side to side. It was almost the perfect ‘Dad dance’.

She’s been dancing in this way for a while now and over the weekend we had a breakthrough. The hands on the hips wiggle was notably present but new moves had been added. POD spun round and waved her arms in the air like she was at a gig. At times it even looked liked she was listening to the music. An amazing display for a toddler who turned two on Christmas Day.

We caught it on video as well. So let me introduce you to this short of POD dancing to Radioactive by Imagine Dragons. Surely she must be one of their youngest fans?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zrT4OkNmY78

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D-Day has arrived

Sometimes something unexpected happens and, in a split second, it changes everything. For me it was 3.50pm on 3rd November 2011.

POD had fallen asleep in the car on the way back from soft play. When we arrived home I’d carried her indoors in her car seat so she could sleep. Outside it was pouring with rain. I knew I didn’t have long to put out 3 bags of recycling. Each of which had to be taken from the back to the front of the house. Once I’d finished and I was walking towards the back door, I glanced at the sky. I remember thinking there might be a sunset.

But then it happened. My left leg slid from underneath me. I thundered to the ground so fast I didn’t get the chance to put my hands out to cushion the fall. There I lay, on the decking, the rain beating down on me. The pain in my left arm was immense. POD was 10 months old and inside the house. I’d noticed our neighbours were out. If I’d shouted no-one would come. I knew I had to move myself and get help.

It was at that point I saw my hand. It didn’t look right. Very gently I pulled back the sleeve of my mac. It was like someone had taken a giant scoop of ice-cream out of my wrist. Bone protruded out of the opposite side although I was thankful it hadn’t cut through the skin. My hand was pointing towards my body instead of away from it.

Standing up I felt faint and nauseous but I got to the back door. I used my face to lift the handle whilst locking it with my right hand. Strange I put so much effort into this, I should have left it. My body had started to shake at this point.

I called 999 and opened the front door so the paramedics could reach me. POD was now awake and crying but I couldn’t pick her up. She was safest in her car seat. The paramedics arrived five minutes later. They were brilliant. It’s a strange thing shock. My body seemed to shut down in the ambulance. So much so when we arrived at the hospital my legs gave way beneath me.

POD was so well looked after by A&E staff and the sister fed her dinner. An x-ray confirmed I’d broken my radius and my ulna at the point of rotation. It couldn’t have been a more spectacular break. I guess if you’re going to break something, you should do it properly. Surgery had been discussed but no theatres were available. It was agreed they’d try to re-align my bones and put me in plaster me until they could operate. One person gripped my hand and the other my arm. Then they pulled in opposite directions.

I was put in plaster with my left arm elevated to my right shoulder. It was difficult not being able to look after POD. I couldn’t even cuddle her. A three hour operation took place a few days later. I came round on 11/11/11 just before 11am the proud owner of some fancy metal work. We hadn’t anticipated I wouldn’t be able to travel after being discharged. POD and I were separated for eight days. It felt like eight years.

Nevertheless after being told it would take 18 months to get the rotation back in my wrist. It didn’t. I went overboard with the physio and achieved it in less than 6 months. I guess that says something about me as a person. The radius had healed brilliantly and the movement in my wrist up to this point has been good. The ulna has not fared so well, its got much worse over recent months.

So Wednesday 10th April is D-Day – surgery number two. More metal will be added to my wrist so it doesn’t rotate anymore. A centimeter of bone will be taken out of my arm. Over time this will turn to gristle and become a new rotation point for my wrist. The success rate for this surgery is high so I’m optimistic. Here’s hoping I end up with a bionic arm so I can play tennis.

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Walks

Walking in the country was high on the agenda when the Doves re-located to Surrey after twenty years in London. We moved in the summer of 2010 and POD arrived on Christmas Day that year. Having given my coccyx and pelvis a battering in labour, lengthy walks are currently off the agenda. Short ones aren’t though and we regularly check out what the Surrey countryside has to offer. Recent finds include The Secret Pool and the ruins of Waverley but we have lots more discovering to do.

Rather amusingly, my most memorable walk was a hike. I didn’t know it at the time. Whilst in New Zealand, a couple of friends suggested we do the Tongariro Crossing. They described it as a ‘gentle walk’. We forgot they are fit.

Some say the volcanic peaks of Ngauruhoe, Tongariro and Ruapehu are among the top ten single-day treks in the world. It’s 19.4 kilometres long, at an altitude of up to 1,800 metres, and its popular because of its phenomenal scenery. It’s a far cry from the gentle walk.

That said the track was fairly flat at first. Well formed and board walked in damp areas to provide stability under foot. We then followed a stream around the edge of an old lava flow in the sunshine. It was all rather lovely. New Zealand is a fabulous country.

When we hit the Devil’s Staircase the fun really began (I wish I had a photo to share). Stepping over uneven layers of ancient and modern lava flows and volcanic deposits was *seriously* hard work. The temperature changed dramatically. I re-broke two toes but there was no going back. At the top of the Devil’s staircase, the view down the valley and out across the surrounding countryside was amazing.

After a brief spell walking on the flat, passing South Crater, we were faced with another walk uphill on an exposed ridge to the Red Crater. Here we enjoyed some spectacular views across the Oturere Valley, Rangipo Desert, Kaimanawa Ranges and down towards the Emerald Lakes.

The descent from the Red Crater posed a different challenge in that the loose scoria underfoot moved quickly. Quite refreshing doing a spot of sliding after the Devil’s Staircase. The Emerald Lakes were something else, incredible views. Minerals leached from the surrounding rock cause the beautiful turquoise colour.

The climb to the edge of the North Crater was easier. It was once filled with molten lava and then cooled and solidified to give a level surface more than 1000m wide. From there we followed the route down the Ketetahi Springs where minerals in the water had stained the rocks. It was a lengthy journey to the finish. Although mostly downhill, two broken toes sliding to the front of your walking boots every time you take a step is not pleasant.

We finished the Tongariro Crossing in 6.5 hours (with the average 7-9 hours). Not bad all things considered. Once we’d quenched our thirst (we ran out of water an hour before the finish), we rewarded ourselves with a *large* ice cold lager. We had jelly legs for days afterwards. Truly an unforgettable walk.

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